It's a question that has been asked time and again: what do you do when you are no longer in a happy marriage? Do you stay or do you go?
Others will tell you: “It’s never too late for a second chance!” and you want to agree. You have high hopes in the power of love. Maybe, if you try to work it out, things could change for the better. You regain happiness in your marriage.
But in some cases, staying together isn’t the key towards ultimate happiness. Sometimes, you have to let go.
Focus on Yourself
Any divorce attorney in Nassau County will tell you one thing: seek your happiness. How can you do that? By focusing on the one thing in life you can control: yourself.
Social conditioning says achieving your happiness involves the having the hottest car, newest house, or even the most attractive partner. You stay with your spouse because you worry about emotional and financial gaps. Despite the pain, you’re unsure if you can survive without them.
On the contrary, you can. You just have to focus on yourself and what makes you happy.
The Road to Empowerment
Real happiness is an inside job. If you want to find it, take the road less travelled and separate from your spouse. It seems impossible but the path towards encouragement starts with personal growth, self-reflection, and surrender.
Whenever you recall unpleasant memories, look inward. The situations that trigger your emotions are not within your control. It’s all right to acknowledge your emotions. Acknowledge them and feed your feelings.
Cut the Cord — ASAP
When things are no longer looking up, don’t mind your spouse’s sake. Think of yourself and what is best for you (and the kids, if you have any). Rather than stay in a loveless marriage, seek legal advice immediately and cut the cord. Let everything go and settle the divorce once and for all.
Holding on is useless when the marriage is hopeless. Just let go and find your happiness.